The Power of a Decision
Discover your own power, own it, and use it wisely for the benefit of all.
Are you someone who comes up with excuses for why you aren't living your best life? Why you don't have nice things? Why you are the way you are and cannot change? Saying to yourself and others "If I had this I could do that", "If I didn't have this default I could be that or accomplish x", "If I grew up somewhere else or had different parents, a different upbringing, things would be different", "Only people like that can achieve those things".
They're all an excuse you give yourself to hide away out of fear, being courageous is a scary thing, being vulnerable is scary, putting yourself out there with the possibility of getting hurt, rejected, ridiculed, bullied, shut down is F***ING scary... I know all too well. I have and still do in certain areas of my life hold myself back from really giving it my all, I have my own basket of excuses I hold onto. The question is are you aware of this? Do you acknowledge that you are in fact just making excuses and that you can indeed create the life of your dreams, you can be and achieve all that you put your mind, heart, and soul into. Many say you can achieve what you put your mind to, but I believe you need more than just the mind. The mind can be a useful tool but it can also take control and sabotage your success. It's important to take into consideration your heart and soul, what is it that you really want to do. We all grow up with some sort of conditioning from parents, siblings, extended family, teachers, friends, the environment, the media, society, the government. We are moulded into the person that our family and society thinks we should be, this can create limitations in the mind. Are you one or do you know one of those kids that grow up to be huge successes in the eyes of their family and society but actually hate what they do, are absolutely miserable, and end up making drastic changes that shocks everyone, or die with regrets? The mind can get you far but has it taken you along the right path for you? The heart will guide you along the right path for you leading you to ultimate fulfilment and joy. Your soul guides you on a deeper level, many have never really thought about their soul. I believe the soul is a kind of blueprint of who we are, it holds all that we have achieved in past lives, it holds all that we wish to achieve, our soul purpose for being on this planet, the reason we decided to come here, what contribution did we want to make, what challenges did we want to overcome. I believe on a soul level we chose to come to this planet, we chose our parents as much as they chose us, a kind of soul contract, we chose our soul mates, we chose the challenges we are currently experiencing. We didn't choose them to suffer, we chose them to be the victor, the Hero of our own story, to accomplish, to heal, to grow, to learn, to experience all that a human being can, the good and the bad. So what is your soul purpose? Do you know? Have you ever dared to ask the question? No... I suggest you start asking that question, and take the golden brick road to your salvation.
There are infinite number of paths that you can choose to take but I believe individually we have already chosen our ideal destination, freewill comes into play on how we reach that destination, or if we reach it at all. There have been studies done on people who are on their deathbed and asked about regrets, what they wish they did when they had the chance. None of them said I wish I worked more. People want more time with their loved ones, they want to live life on their terms, whether that be to start that business they always dreamed of, to go back to school, start a family, travel, we all have different hopes, dreams, wants, needs... Why are we choosing to stay in jobs we ate, relationships with people we can't stand to be around, in neighbourhoods that are unsafe or that we just dislike being in. Your surroundings determine so much on how you feel, the quality of life you lead, and you my friend are CHOOSING your surroundings. Now before you go and grab your basket of excuses to throw at me. Look at the people that were in the same or worse situations than you and made the change, made the DECISION to change their reality, to create the life they wanted to live. If they can do it so can you. The only difference is they had the courage to do it in spite of what anyone else thought of them. That's what a lot of it is all about... What will that person think of me, what will my family think of me, what if I fail, what if they laugh at me. You're allowing your fear of what other people think of you to keep you in a place of suffering. Is it worth it? When you're on your deathbed will it all have been worth it?
Everything can change from a simple decision you make today. Overnight successes are not really overnight successes you just don't see all that went into that success becoming a success. We all start somewhere, try not to compare yourself to others, start with you. What are you struggling with right now? What does your life look like right now? What do you want it to look like? Get so clear on your vision that you can literally see it and feel it as if it were here right now. See it so clear in your minds eye and in your heart, and hold on tight. Each decision you make from here on out will be in honour of that vision, in making it become your reality.
People will try to bring you down and question you out of their own fear and that's okay, they haven't got to where you are, say "Thank you for your concern" and then simply move along. If those people continue to try and tear you down, make the decision to distance yourself from them, if that person is someone you care for deeply, they will understand and either support you or get out of the way, if they continue to try and bring you down they're not healthy to be around right now. Make your decisions in honour of your vision, when you achieve that vision all those people that said you couldn't or shouldn't do it will be shocked and may even be inspired to make some changes in their own life. Sometimes leaving someone behind is the best thing you can do for them, it opens their eyes, it challenges them to face their own demons. So don't think you're doing them a disservice by honouring yourself and working towards making your dreams a reality, you're actually making a huge contribution to the world, and the people they need to see that and are ready to see that, will. People are ready in their own time so don't push them or you'll push them far away.
Every success started with a single step... A single decision.
What will you decide?