Are you comparing yourself to the “perfect” person?

Are you comparing yourself to the “perfect” person?

I had a coaching session with my couples coach and as I was guided into a deep healing process I connected with my inner child.

A younger me that was terrified to speak, completely shut down. I felt her pain, it was so intense.

I held her in her pain with as much compassion as I could muster, I felt her fears and how much she desired to be a good student, the “perfect” student and do the process “right” but she couldn’t.

She was too afraid to express herself, to speak out loud and felt frozen.

Instead of forcing her to do what she was invited to do and express her pain outwardly, I held her in her authentic expression of fear, sadness and deep hurt expressing through tears, contraction and silence.

I held her as she cried.
I held her in all the stories that came up because she couldn’t do the process “right”

As the session began to come to completion I felt the stories get stronger…

“I failed”
“I’m not strong enough”
“I’m a bad mother for not being able to do this for my daughter”
“Who am I to coach others when I can’t do the process right” (imposter syndrome)

My coach intuitively reassured me in that exact moment “you did not fail, you moved through your process exactly as you were meant to”

And as she spoke those words I knew them to be true. I softened and the stories dissolved. I came back to my centre. Back to my truth.

I had some of the most profound breakthroughs in that session and I am so deeply grateful for the support of my coach, my partner who was present, my baby girl who was present, and for myself, for all the work I have done that now allows me to meet the deepest parts of myself and hold those parts with deep compassion as I continue to integrate and come home to my fullest expression of self.

I realised how much we compare ourselves to the “perfect” person that doesn’t even exist.

Deeming ourselves bad girls, naughty, wrong, shameful, misbehaving, failures, not this enough, too much of that…

Suppressing our true, unique, magnificent selves.

This has been conditioned into, pushed onto us for many years and generations and we are continuously breaking free.

What an exciting time to be alive.

You are not expected to be this idea of perfect, you are already divinely perfect just as you are, you don’t need to try, you don’t need to change, you don’t need to push things away and add other things to be good enough

You were always more than enough just as you are.

The world doesn’t need another picture perfect, compliant, well behaved, good girl.

The world needs you.
In your uniqueness.
Your authenticity.
Your courage.
Your messiness.
All of you.

My process with my coach was perfect, divine, exactly what I needed and how I needed to move through it.

It has taken me many years to finally trust my process. There are times when I doubt it and then as I integrate I realise just how perfect it was, how divine it was, how I got exactly what I needed and I trust a little more and a little more.

It’s a journey.
It’s a dance.
It’s divinity.

Divinely unfolding one step at a time.

Working with a coach has profoundly changed my life and my relationship and I am so grateful that I trusted my instinct and my intuition to invest in myself last year in a 1 year long coaching course to deepen my skills. I have received more than I could have ever imagined.

❤️