The real meaning of failure
When did we get it into our heads that failing is bad, wrong, shameful, embarrassing, and fucking terrifying???
Failure is how we learn, how we collect data that lets us know what didn’t quite work and redirects us toward success, toward our desires, toward our greatest potential
If you got everything “right” all the time, life would be fucking boring!!! 😂
Seriously…
Failure allows for growth, experience, diversity, variety and allows you to truly enjoy success when it comes your way
And honey… Success is coming your way!
This is something I continue to navigate and move through..
I still have times (often! especially as a new mama bear) where I feel like a fucking FAILURE!!!
And it hurts.
It really does.
But what I’ve realised is that the hurt, the failures, the mistakes, the falling down is what builds inner strength, resilience, and stretches me so deep to the point of incredible expansion.
When I feel I’ve failed my son, I ask what can I do from here, what can I do differently, how can I show up even more greatly as I move forth
I ask myself what do I need to support myself through this?
I ask what is coming up for me, what wound or belief is being triggered within me that’s causing this feeling?
Because often it’s this feeling that I am not good enough that causes so much of the pain and suffering.. It’s not actually the failure itself, it’s what we made the failure mean about ourselves…
What are you making the failure mean about you?
And is it actually the absolute truth?
Do you really believe you’re not good enough?
And if so… How could that possibly be true?
What made you believe that in the first place?
What life experience first created that belief within yourself?
If you were to close your eyes now and think of a baby being born into the world, any baby, not necessarily someone you know…
When you see that baby, do you see this baby as not good enough? Unworthy? Unloveable?
Or do you see them as completely innocent and worthy of the best life possible?
I’m going to assume you answered the latter… ☺️
And so if this is true… What makes you any different?
The belief of I am not good enough was LEARNED!!!
And if it can be learned, it can be unlearned, it can be released and a new belief can take it’s place.
So I ask you…
What belief would you like to have in it’s place instead?
What belief would serve your highest good and in doing so serve the highest good of all?
Because when you believe in yourself, when you love and accept yourself, your light shines BRIGHT and others see that, they FEEL it and they become curious about how they can experience what you’re experiencing
It redirects them and supports them in healing and shining their light.
It’s the ripple effect of doing your inner work.
And failure is part of doing the inner work.
It’s how you learn what doesn’t work, what doesn’t feel right for you, it’s redirecting you and supporting you in finding your true path, purpose and truth.
Failure is inevitable.
Let’s get fucking GOOD at it by doing it again and again and again.
Learn from it, allow it to be your guide.
Lean in, feel it, embrace it, celebrate it…
Like YES!!! I Fucking FAILED AGAIN!! Woohooo!
And ask “What did I learn? What gift did I receive from this experience?”
And if there’s pain, hurt, anger, resentment, grief or any other emotion, give yourself full permission to feel it.
Get curious about what the experience is revealing to you.
And honey…
Get ready to fucking RISE!!!!!
