Struggling to use your voice in relationships…
Struggling to use your voice in relationships… To express what you need, desire and what your boundaries are
To honour your yes’s and your no’s… maybe to even know what is a yes and a no for you… how do you know what you want and need…
Maybe you’ve never really allowed yourself to need and want and have always focused on others, taking care and giving to others…
This was me for sooo long
Acknowledging my needs, desires and boundaries and then expressing those has been such a journey and I’m so honoured to support others in this area today.
I have come to know how deeply important it is for us to prioritise our needs, desires and boundaries and how this actually BENEFITS our loved ones, community and all of humanity immensely
For when you prioritise your needs you are showing others it’s okay for them to priories their needs too.
You become the walking permission slip this world needs more of.
By prioritising your needs, you are filling up your cup and you will have so much more to give and share with the world.
You’re also putting an end to relying on others meeting your needs and you are taking radical self- responsibility and showing others how to do this and together we all become more self-responsible and stop relying so heavily on others where it’s actually causing harm
My partner and I just celebrated 5 years together a couple weeks ago and I remember how heavily I relied on him and expected him to meet certain needs and when he didn’t I would buy into the story that he must not be “the one”
This caused so much disharmony and disconnection in the relationship.
It was also a protective mechanism, keeping him from getting too close where he could really hurt me or disappoint me.
So many people are blocking great love because they’re afraid of getting hurt, they’re in a holding pattern of protection preventing them from having the love, life and relationships they deeply desire.
When I began to do the deeper inner child and integrative work, I was able to appreciate my partner for how he DOES show up and stop focusing on all the areas I didn’t think he was.
I realised how much I was protecting myself and took the steps to create inner safety and security that allowed me to open my heart and let him in that has brought us into deep connection and union.
This has been absolutely magical.
On this journey I realised I don’t need him to meet all my needs, I can meet a lot of my needs and actually that’s what I needed… I needed me to show up for me.
And the more I met my own needs the more my needs were met externally as well
Because it’s your inner world that creates your external… your external world, your experience is simply reflecting what is happening within you
This is an invitation to get curious about what is my life, relationship, reality, experience revealing to me
Why am I afraid to express my needs, ask for what I need from my partner, meet my need myself, prioritise my needs…
What is holding me back here, what am I really afraid of…
And what do I need to support me to move through this so I can prioritise and express my needs
On Monday evening I held a really deep conversation on inner child healing and conscious relationships and something that was coming up for a lot of people were challenges around expressing needs and getting needs met
If this is something you also struggle with or resonate with, I invite you to checkout the replay on my podcast, The Good Girl Unleashed
It's also something I support my clients and students with, to become aware of what they're needs are, expressing their needs, prioritising them and getting them met so they can fill their cup and feel deeply nourished allowing them to show up more fully for themselves, their lives and their loved ones.
Meeting your needs is not about being selfish or only thinking about yourself... It's about filling up your cup so that you can be of the greatest service to others as well.
We can self-honour and prioritise ourselves as well as support, love and nourish those we love.
But we can only self-sacrifice for so long before we our cups are completely empty and we burnout, leading to dis-ease, disharmony, resentment and breakdown...
Taking care of you is essential.
Remember, YOU are the ONE you are doing life with, you are the constant, you must show up for you and take care of you.
And you'll see how doing this will TRANSFORM your reality and relationships.
If you feel called to journey more deeply together, to be held and supported through this process of coming home to your authentic self, prioritising your needs, and building the confidence to express yourself, your needs, desires and boundaries
I invite you to join me for an incredibly deep and powerful journey, The Sacred Art of Loving Yourself, a 12-week journey of self-discovery, reconnection, and rebirth.
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