How do you trust a man and create safe conscious love???

Often on this journey we often call the “spiritual” or “healing” or “awakening” journey we come in with this idea that you have to heal something that is broken, release something that is not serving and essentially get rid of parts that we deem unacceptable, wrong or shameful.

I have learned on my journey that it’s not about getting rid of something and it’s actually about embracing all of you, loving all of you and supporting all the parts of you to come home.

The more you do this for yourself the more you will build self-trust which will allow you to trust others as well as discern who is trustworthy and who is not.

Trust isn’t something that we just willy nilly, to just anyone without a second thought… Or maybe there have been times where you have blindly trusted and been hurt and therefore now have protections to prevent you from experiencing that hurt again… In this instance, of course you would want to protect yourself and hold back from trusting another man or anyone for that matter, especially yourself… Because you chose to trust that person and it backfired and you may blame yourself and doubt yourself.

Rather than blaming yourself you can choose to learn from the experience and gain the wisdom that will increase your ability to discern in future situations so you don’t make the same mistake again.

But there is also healing to be done, supporting the part of your that is hurting from past experiences, integrating these parts, validating these parts, loving these parts and supporting them to feel safe inside of you and trust you.

As you build this deeper trust within yourself, you will feel safer and more at ease within yourself and when it comes to trusting another being you will be able to take the time to feel into whether or not you can trust this person and what needs to happen or be put in place for you to trust and open to love.

Trust is something we build over time and so as you navigate any kind of relationship you will naturally gather evidence that will let you know how much you can trust this person and if you are feeling that you cannot trust this person, get curious about what is telling you that you cannot trust and if possible you can have the conversation with this person to explain how you’re feeling and where it’s coming from, let them know what would be helpful and support you to trust them.

What are your needs, desires and boundaries within this relationship, whether it’s a partner, friendship, colleague, family member or anyone you are in relationship with… What are the needs, desires and boundaries, these need to be clearly communicated otherwise it will be challenging if not impossible to trust that person.

This is where we can feel a lack of trust… Due to not having these conversations, no one knows where they stand, no one knows the boundaries and therefore will likely cross them at some point and so we are constantly on edge, wondering not if they’ll be crossed but when…

So how do you trust a man and create safe conscious love???

It all starts with you.

How deeply do you trust yourself?
How deeply do you love yourself?
How much do you show up for yourself?

Much of our experience has elements of projection and if there is a need not being met perhaps you are not meeting your own needs. If there is a boundary being crossed, are you honouring those boundaries with yourself, are you honouring yourself by clearly expressing those boundaries…

So often we get caught in victim consciousness and the blame game. When you take radical self-responsibility and get really honest with yourself, you will begin to reclaim your power and transform your life and relationships.

PODCAST EPISODE 110: How To Build Trust Within Yourself So That You Can Trust Others, Feel Safe To Let Love In & Build Conscious Relationships