Addicted To Familiar Emotional States, Self-Abandoning, Personal Boundaries, Expressing Yourself

I had a conversation with one of my clients and I was sharing an experience I had had around constantly being pissed off, this was an experience that kept coming up for me again and again...

She asked me if it was because that was an emotion I was addicted to or was my comfort zone, something I had practiced again and again

My answer to that was yeah could be but there's more to it...

As I tuned into my experience of being pissed off, I noticed there were different parts at play and I was not actually pissed off at my partner, or my mother, or anything outside of myself…

I was pissed off at me!

When I was people pleasing, over-giving, self-sacrificing, not expressing my needs or boundaries, not honouring myself, not doing the thing I had set out to do, getting triggered because I was tired because I hadn’t taken care of myself and done what I needed for me…

Whatever it was… But at the end of the day I was actually pissed off at myself.

Through compassionate exploration, curiosity, contemplation, self-inquiry, I got so many insights and answers that helped me to shift from being pissed off all the time to experiencing more joy and happiness.

I am more able to laugh and enjoy myself, my experiences, my emotions, my sensations, all of them “good” and “bad”

And through this I have been able to expand my capacity to feel… All of it.

Emotions are purely sensation, they don’t mean anything other than what we make them mean…

Often we push away the good feels because it’s too intense to feel good, we have been practicing feeling bad for far longer and these patterns have been passed down through the generations making them even stronger.

We must expand our capacity to feel good, to feel the happy, the wonderful so that we can enjoy our lives and our relationships.

Check out my recent podcast episode on expanding your capacity to receive

The Good Girl Unleashed Podcast, available on Apple, Google & Spotify

Here’s my Facebook Live on this topic…