The Emotional Flow State :
In this blog post I will be sharing with you…
How To Tap Into Your Flow State : The roadmap to getting into flow and maintaining your flow without constantly getting stuck for days, weeks and months on end.
Many of us find ourselves stuck time and time again and when you feel stuck it can send you into a spiral of thoughts, feelings and stories that play on loop again and again and again… This drives you craaaaazy!!!
Often I hear people saying I must be “low vibe” and are desperately trying to bypass this low vibe and get into the “high vibe” state.
We judge and compare ourselves because of what we perceive our vibe to be and what others vibe is.
This “high vibe” story is just a story you tell yourself because deep down you are living the belief of “I’m not good enough” and you’re finding ways to validate your core beliefs… “See I’m just not good enough, that’s why my vibe is so low” - then you go on a journey of trying to fix it, perfect it, fix yourself as if you’re a broken mess that needs saving, fixing, a solution.
This is madness.
You are not broken.
E-motions are energy in motion.. Energy is designed to move.
When you resist your emotions they get stuck and knotted up in your physical body - maybe you’ve noticed the tension and pain in your body from time to time??? This is knotted energy, stuck energy - stuck e-motion.
You are resisting feeling and expressing an emotion because you have a story about it.
For example…
Maybe you’re avoiding feeling sad because sad means I’m “low vibe”, if you let yourself feel sad, you have to admit that you are in fact low vibe
And if you admit that you are low vibe you believe that I really am not good enough
Emotions that may follow this can be resentment, anger, blame, wanting to blame someone else for the way that you’re feeling, deflecting the core belief of “I am not good enough” because it’s too painful to bear
Followed by depression, avoidance, numbing out, disassociation, coping mechanisms, addictions to avoid feeling the pain of “I’m not good enough”
The coping mechanisms cause feelings of guilt, shame and deeper depression and strengthens the feeling of “I am not good enough” creating thoughts of “I really am not good enough, they were right” “What’s the point, I can’t do this” “This just isn’t going to happen for me” “This is who I am” “May as well just accept it.”
This sends you deeper into depression and shame about who you are - deeper into avoidance strategies and numbing out.
Shame is associated with the belief/story “There is something wrong with me” and when you buy into that story and take it on as truth because everything around you seems to validate the story it creates more shame, anxiety, depression, perfectionism.
You put on different masks to become someone else when you’re around other people - someone you think they will approve of, someone that’s worthy but deep down you don’t believe you’re worthy and that is exactly what they reflect to you.
Your external world is a reflection of your inner world.
Not the other way around.
When you attach a story to your emotion, and the emotion gets stuck.
When you make something mean something about you - an experience, something that was said, an emotion or thought that you have - it gets stuck in your body and mind (often in the subconscious mind without any awareness of it) and it disconnects you from spirit and your true self.
You experience this again and again.. Getting triggered often, sending you into spirals, making you wonder…
“What is wrong with me???”
“Why is this happening to me?”
Feeling powerless, helpless and stuck in a victim mindset - you are giving your power away.
BUT there is a way to TAKE YOUR POWER BACK!!!
I know because I was here, having this exact experience for years on end - and I found a way to take my power back and I’m going to share with you how you can to…
You’ve got to FEEL YOUR EMOTIONS without the attachment to what it means about you.
DROP THE STORY & give yourself full permission to feel and express yourself.
Easier said than done - especially if this is all new to you.
I get it. I’ve been there!!!
Here’s what you can do - EMBRACE CURIOSITY
Become curious about what you’re experiencing. When an emotion, thought or belief comes up - notice it.
What sensations arise in your body, what emotions comes up, what thoughts are playing out, what beliefs do you hold about yourself, others or the world.
If you struggle to feel and express yourself, you very likely do not feel safe in your body and in the world.
You do not feel safe to be vulnerable and feel because at sometime in your life, likely in early childhood you were hurt, wronged, shamed, told to shut up or stop crying, you’re embarrassing, get off the floor, do this, do that, don’t do this, don’t do that, or maybe you were completely ignored.
Notice the story you’re telling yourself and notice how the story is exactly that - a story
You decide if it’s true or not.
Acknowledge the story, you don’t to fight it, resist it or push it away - just notice it.
Ask yourself “Is this true for me?” “Do I want this to be my truth?”
Notice how you feel - sensations, emotions, feelings
Lean into that - even just a little
Find a space where you’re alone or with someone you really trust so you can explore this.
Name the physical sensations rather than just focusing on what you think the emotion is.
Notice your language…
Your language can amplify the situation - try this
“I AM Anxious”
”I AM Feeling Anxious”
”I AM Experiencing Anxiety”
When you say each one to yourself notice how differently you feel.
When you say “I AM Anxious” or “I AM an anxious person”, you’re owning that identity, it’s a belief, a story that you perceive to be true, you’re owning it and in owning it you are creating more of it.
“I’m feeling anxious” or “I’m experiencing anxiety” is fleeting, momentary, temporary… it’s not who you are.
Take it a step further and remove anxiety altogether - focus on the physical sensations.
Tightness in your chest, shaking, sweating, rush of energy,
What else do you notice? tingling… keep going…
You’re now taking your attention away from anxiety and placing it in your body, on the sensations, in the present and the anxiety disappears because you’re not longer focused on it, owning it.
Did you know anxiety and excitement have almost the exact same physical sensations?
But if you have been playing the story and having the experience of anxiety for weeks, months, years, decades as soon as those sensations arise automatically you’re in the story of “I’m anxious” and that creates more anxious feelings, thoughts, actions and experiences.
When you shift your lens of perception and open your mind to the fact that these sensations could be singing a very different song - anxiety no longer has power over you.
This is just one example and applies to all other emotions, states, beliefs and such.
My intention here is to open your mind to what’s really going on and to become aware that emotions are not bad nor good.
There aren’t good emotions and bad emotions - positive and negative - they are simply just energy in motion and can all be used in empowering ways.
Your Flow State depends on you being able to flow with ALL human emotion, it’s not about being in the “good” emotions, the “high vibes” and avoiding or never feeling the “low vibes/bad emotions”
It’s about learning how to let go of the stories, allow yourself to feel fully in the moment so that you can maintain your FLOW.
When you let yourself feel fully your energy continues to flow, when you resist, it gets stuck and it persists until you finally give in and feel the emotion but when you attach a story to it that’s when you get stuck in negative cycles, self-talk and sabotaging patterns.
You must learn how to detach the story from the emotion
Acknowledge the story so you can unpack, unravel it, release it and integrate it - which will come with a lot of flowing emotion that has been stuck and knotted up within that story/belief so it can be intense - but as you allow this process and lean into the discomfort is able to release and integrate - guiding you home to you.
When you learn to feel all your emotions you liberate your emotions and yourself. You create space within to become more aware, more conscious and take your power back. You free up the stuck energy and have the power to do something INCREDIBLE with that energy. You learn to flow with life, embrace life and surrender deeply into love with life.
If this is resonating with you, I’d love to hear from you. Share your story, what resonates, what challenges you’re currently experiencing and if you have any questions.. If you’ve experienced this in the past and you found a way through it, I wanna hear all about it!!! Share your story.
Share in the comments below or email me directly at info@moniquecarmela.com
I will be going deeper into this in my upcoming FREE Masterclass
